Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Life Coach?

I've been suffering from some (very white-collar) angst for several years now. I've alluded to it in a number of posts here. Basically, I'm not sure what I want and so I feel like I've been spinning my wheels for a while. Sometimes I content myself with thinking maybe this is just me, to be diffused and have my energy going in a million different directions and I need to accept my nature. Other times I feel destroyed by trying to keep so many balls in the air, not really giving any of them the true time and energy they deserve. That I am disappointing everyone, not to mention myself.

I had a brief conversation with Mrs. H and I feel like she really nailed my problem. She said she saw me as someone who needs to be artistically fulfilled and that since I don't get any of that at my job (and i spend so much of my time at work) that I am scrambling around like mad outside of work trying to find that fulfillment. (to the detriment of my family life) She also said I was selling myself short by limiting my job search by not including that need in it.

This is basically a rephrasing of where I think Lakeview Joe was trying to get me to go when I was working with him a little over the summer. Ultimately I became frustrated because I couldn't figure out what that thing is. The occupation that would give me that artistic fulfillment. So I "gave up" and decided to at least look for a position in a different company, hoping that a change would give me some new ideas.

I think if I am honest with myself I haven't been zooming ahead with the job search because my heart is not in it. Or rather, I don't feel like I am headed towards anything still. I am just closing my eyes and throwing a dart at the board.

Mrs. H suggested that it might be a good idea for me to hire a "life coach"/career counselor. Someone who could help me find that thing and then assist me in setting goals and sticking to them. Has anyone out there ever worked with a coach before? What was your experience? Bonus points if you can recommend someone in the Chicago area!

5 comments:

Zola Jones by Jason Loper said...

Actually, Abby went to a life coach just before Christmas. She ended up only going for 1 session due to cost ($150/session with an expected duration of 10+ sessions!). I considered it myself but didn't go through with it. If you want to Abby's coach's number, let me know.

Lakeview Coffee Joe said...

Unfortunately I don't know of any. I'm always available again to bounce ideas off of though!

Pulisha said...

I wish I had some great advice for you, but I happened to completely luck into a career I love. I just got really lucky. Have you tried doing some research on the web?

Dad said...

I'd be very careful with the life coach thing. In theory it should be a good idea. Unfortunately a majority of them look a there clients as annuities - meaning long-term sources of income - so they don't push their clients to come to resolutions and are very happy to just have meeting after meeting after meeting after meeting...

alexis said...

dad' got a good point. When you look for a coach you should ask for the average "turnaround" time of their clients.

A friend of mine here in Amsterdam is a life coach, I'll ask her if she knows anyone in chicago.